We all need time away from our significant other now and again, and a holiday with friends is the perfect getaway. But sometimes it can test the strength of a relationship between two people.
The saying ‘what happens on holiday, stays on holiday’ is often thrown around, but for some couples, this can leave them feeling uneasy and make them worry when their partner goes away.
But dating expert Jacob Lucas is on hand to share his five top tips to make the best of your time apart and shake those worries away.
Speaking on behalf of Spin Genie, Jacob says throwing yourself into your extra free time will keep your mind occupied and make sure you have things to talk about with your partner.
He added that making sure you video call every day is ‘one of the most important elements’ for a healthy relationship, even if it is just ten minutes a day.
Jacob stresses that trust and a ‘healthy line of communication’ are important or you could risk pushing your partner away, but added you should always let your partner know that you are safe to help the person at home feel more relaxed.
Speaking on behalf of Spin Genie, dating expert Jacob Lucas said: “When one person in a relationship goes on a lads or girls holiday it can sometimes test the strength of that relationship.”
“So many of us have heard the stories, ‘What happens on lads/girls holiday stays on holiday’, which can make many people worry when their partner goes away.”
“Or perhaps your partner is going away with their friends who are all single and you’re worried that their influence might rub off on your partner. But fear not, most of the time these are just scary campfire stories that you hear on the internet.
“Follow these five tips when your partner goes away and you’ll have nothing to fear. They will have a great time and you’ll be relaxed, calm, and making the best of your time apart.”
1. Throw yourself into your hobbies
“When your partner goes on holiday it can feel like you have a lot of extra free time. If you don’t fill that time up with things that you enjoy you are going to start missing your partner even more.
“This is a fantastic opportunity to spend more time doing a hobby that perhaps you don’t usually have time for because you are spending time with your partner. This will keep your mind occupied, and you’ll have a lot of fun things to talk about when your partner asks you ‘What have you been up to?’”
2. Catch up with friends
“I understand that when you are in a relationship it can become difficult seeing all of your friends because you are usually busy with your partner. But what a fantastic opportunity to go and catch up with old friends you haven’t seen in a while. After all, your partner wouldn’t want you to sit at home all alone. They would want you to go and see your friends.”
3. Video chat with your partner once a day
“Healthy and consistent communication in a relationship is one of the most important elements to any happy relationship, and just because someone goes on holiday, it doesn’t mean that the communication needs to go on holiday too.
“Each day, even if it’s just for 10 minutes before you go to bed, jump on a quick video call and have a daily catch-up about what you’ve both been up to. This will relieve any anxiety you may feel from being apart because you are still staying in contact with each other.”
4. You need to trust each other
“One of the biggest worries people have when a partner goes on holiday is, ‘What if they meet someone else on holiday?’ or ‘Are lots of people trying to flirt with my boyfriend/girlfriend?’.
“Well, the fact of the matter is that you need to trust your partner when they go on holiday with their friends. If you start questioning them and being distrustful of them when they aren’t with you, even when they’ve done nothing wrong, you will end up pushing them away.”
“Instead, create a line of healthy communication with each other so that your partner feels comfortable going away with their friends instead of always feeling under suspicion.”
5. Be sure to have your partner let you know they are going to be in a safe environment
“The imagination can run wild if left unchecked and it can cause a lot of anxiety for people if they don’t know where their partner is and if they are safe.”
“I think the easiest way to overcome this is if your partner is transparent about what their plans are when they are on holiday.
“Knowing that your loved one is in a safe environment surrounded by responsible people will make you feel much more relaxed when they are away.”
