Roz Purcell has shared an important messaged about the “shame” of not settling down.
The 29-year-old opened up about the “fear and shame” she felt ahead of her 30th birthday next month, as she set certain milestones for herself to achieve by that age.
“Growing up I always attached milestones to an age,” she admitted, “My life & happiness to numbers.”
“As I approach 30 I realise how 1. I attached success to these events 2. How society effected my idea of age. The fear to not have settled down by a certain age, the shame of not owning a home or doing all these things before 30.”
“We all need to start normalising doing things at different times- getting married in your 40s, changing career in your 30s owning a house finally in your 50s or never!”
“Not feeling like you always need to fit into the same pair of jeans from your early 20s. Realising not all these things are going to happen in the order you previously thought or may not even happen and that’s ok they don’t define a happy life,” the model shared.
“I hadn’t really thought much about turning 30 next month- but everyones like ‘how do you feel about it, eh?'”
“Younger me may have seen it as a failure but I’ve had some hell of a ride so far without any of these things happen, maybe they will maybe they won’t but I won’t attach them to a number that’s for sure.”
Referring to the sign she is holding in the photo, Roz added: “Also do not feel ready for any of these.”
The sign lists the achievements the former Miss Universe had set for herself to reach by a certain age, including buying a house, getting married and having children – while remaining in size 8 clothing.
“Age barriers are bullshit,” Roz added in the comments, “Life at your own pace is the best life.”
Roz has been enjoying staycations around the country, as she encouraged her followers to “be smart” and “support Irish tourism” as lockdown restrictions begin to ease.