Don’t you just love it when you’re getting to know someone you like for the first time, the sun literally shines out of their arse.
There’s this constant spring in your step. Even the people who usually would drive you nuts can make you smile .
It’s the best thing since sliced bread really… but, let’s fast forward to my current reality.
I’m a 34 year old single girl. I’m not psycho and I consider myself to be good craic. Unfortunately, it has come to the stage where I’ll now choose career over cuddles any day .
I’ve a pain in my face lying about what I do incase a guy runs away. I, Like many women, have spent many years consoling other girls over shitty relationships, telling ourselves it’s not you, it’s him.
Mammy would always say “you won’t even have to question it when it’s right”, so mam, can you tell me why I’m onto my 5th year of being single?
I have spent many years travelling around with work, having the best time of my life. It’s not an ideal situation for any relationship, but you can make it work.
I started to date properly about two years after I came out of my last serious relationship.
I guess I was lucky that I met some nice guys but they all ended up behaving in the same way in the end.
Travelling: I’m away a lot for my job
Almost like history repeating itself, every time I went away for work I was dealing with the same issues.
Everything seemed perfect, they knew what my job involved, and we would talk about how they could share the travel experience with me.
I made them feel very apart of my world without behaving or sounding “Needy”.
As soon as I got on that plane and posted my first picture enjoying my first night in a beautiful country, I was pretty much immediately rejected.
I had given them zero reason for them to treat me this way and this is not a case of he’s just not that into you – it’s a case that they couldn’t stand that I had a great job.
Instead of feeling happy for me, I was resented for doing what I love to do.
So the question is, do some men feel Intimidated by women who are living a more colourful life than them?….absolutely.
For the lads who are secure enough in themselves, then the short answer is no, but so many men aren’t secure enough to handle a high-powered woman.
Like myself, most women are always trying to make a great impression on their first date.
We’re usually planning our outfit the week before but let me give you some advice…
Whatever you do, don’t rock up on the first date looking all sophisticated and strong with your fabulous Prada bag (the one you’ve worked hard for) and then order the best glass of Malbec in the house .
Why?? because they’ll sh** themselves.
Immediately they’ll be telling themselves “she’s gonna want the world” “how can I possibly afford this one”.
You would think those are the qualities men would die for, but sooner or later will they become inferior or inadequate as a man or a bread winner.
Jaysus… is someone telling me this is the reason why I and all my successful friends are single? Because we’re doing great?
A while ago I was pretty much dumped (yes boo hoo).
Single life: I’ve been single for 5 years
I used to sit there on my lonesome trying to figure out what I had done wrong, then the words came from his mouth.
“I don’t really like dating someone who’s away , I’d rather date someone who stays at home so I know what they are up to,” he said.
Fair enough Love, but I can’t get back the hours you’ve wasted and all because you’re scared of what I do.
And it’s not just us, Oscar nominee Saoirse Ronan has described how the dating world hasn’t been easy as a celebrity.
“Perhaps this is why the rich and famous stick together than dating us mere mortals “ she said.
In the mean time last week’s date has just texted to ask me what I’m up to next week, I told him…”I’m in demand”.
Us ladies are busy ya know? x
