‘He’s just not that into you’ is a phrase that can make any sane woman’s blood boil, but unfortunately it can be the case for many potential suitors – no matter how much we deny it.
Making excuses for the person your seeing is one of the first signs that he’s maybe, potentially, definitely not the man for you – so instead of thinking he hasn’t texted you back because he’s been in some sort of freak accident, think again, he’s probably just not arsed.
Sometimes it takes seeing the signs to realise that he’s just not that into you, so here at Goss HQ we’ve compiled a list of the warning signs that suggest that he ain’t the man for you.
2016 is the year for happiness and new beginnings, so why settle for someone who doesn’t want the same for you?
1. He takes forever to text you back
This can be seen as a bit of a silly one, but it actually DOES matter, and it can be INFURIATING.
Now we all know that everyone can be busy and not everyone is hanging onto their phone ever second of the day, but if he takes AGES to text you back more often than not – then he’s quite frankly just taking the piss.
When communicating with someone, whether its through text, email or on the phone – if they really like you, they’ll want to get back to you as soon as possible, simple as.
2. He tries to change you
This is where we stop and say.. OH HELLLL NO!
If you’re in a relationship with someone, they should love you for you. If you feel like the person you’re with is trying to change you, whether its the clothes you wear or the things you believe in – DUMP ‘EM!
Nobody should have to change who they are, no matter how much you fancy the other person – if they can’t accept you, then you shouldn’t accept them.
3. He never comes to your house
Relationships are a two way street, and if he keeps demanding that you come to his house rather than him making the trip to you – then he is most definitely not the one for you.
Ask him to get up off his arse and make the effort to see you, rather than the other way around, and if he’s not keen on the idea – then your better off without him.
4. He avoids touching you in public
Not everyone likes the idea of PDA, but if the person you’re seeing literally doesn’t even touch you when you’re out in public – then you’ve got a problem.
Now we’re not saying you have to suck the face of your beau 24/7 but we all love holding hands right?
We all want to feel loved, and if your man doesn’t even like the idea of holding hands walking down the street, then you better say sayonara to that relationship.
5. The relationship is more physical than emotional
Of course sex is a huge part of a romantic relationship, but it can’t be the ONLY thing you do together.
No matter how much ‘fun’ you may have, in order to be in a healthy relationship, you have to actually be able to TALK to the person and connect with them on an emotional level – and if you find yourselves getting busy under the covers a lot more than having the chats, then he’s probably not in it for the long run.
Soz hun.
6. He doesn’t like you hanging around his friends or family
This is surely one of the biggest signs that he’s not that into you – if he avoids you hanging out or even meeting with his friends or family.
If your man isn’t keen on you being around the people he’s closest to in his life, then he’s either embarrassed of you, or not serious about you – which doesn’t make your relationship sound very promising, and frankly makes you look like a bit of a tit.
In a relationship you should naturally want to show each other off, and if this isn’t the case – get out, now.
7. He only sees you after midnight
I mean, this is fairly obvious, but you’d be surprised how women fall into the booty call trap.
Yes, we said it. BOOTY CALL. That’s what you are if you’re only seeing the guy your dating in the early hours of the morning.
We’ve all been the victim of a booty call, and even called a few ourselves (guilty), but if you’re dating someone and would eventually like it to go somewhere, but your still only seeing them after dark –  then it ain’t good news honey.
Cue Drake’s Hotline Bling….
8. He has a girlfriend
This speaks for itself really. If the person you’re with is, ahem, otherwise engaged, then you’re headed for a VERY dark dead end.
You may think that maybe he’ll leave her for you and you’ll run off together and live happily ever after – but then reality will smack you in the face and you’ll be left high and dry with your only your cat as your life long companion.
Nobody really wants to be the side chick, and that’s exactly what you’ll always be if you stay with him – so do yourself a favour and ditch the bitch.
9. His Tinder profile is still active
If you’ve established that you are now ‘seeing each other’ and he still has the Tinder app on his phone, then he’s probably still attempting to ‘see’ other people too.
If you’re happily dating someone, you shouldn’t feel the need to go looking elsewhere for something more, so in other words, if he’s trying to dip his hand into other baskets – swipe left.
10. He won’t commit
Another obvious one, but probably the most important is whether he is willing to commit to you.
Commitment is a scary thing for a lot of people, but it shouldn’t be if you really like the person. If you’re dating someone for more than a few months and he’s still saying that you’re both “seeing how it goes” – then you need to cut the bullshit, and fast.
He either wants to be with you, or he doesn’t, simple as. Don’t let anyone string you along and waste your time when you could be finding your real Prince Charming!
